A Poke in the Third Eye 👁
Musings on love, life and conscious evolution 🙏 and an End of 2024 Offer! ⚡
At the end of this post I finish with the offer of a Freedom Hypnosis session with me at half the full amount if booked in Dec 2024 (session to be held in Jan or Feb 2025). If interested, simply send me a quick email at hello@robitochatwin.com or
As we come to the end of 2024 (and today is my birthday 🎂), I’m not sharing a detailed article, a podcast episode, or film or video, but my personal musings ..
Actually, I haven’t shared much about my personal life on here since starting this Substack. I am sharing now, like many that do I presume, with the intention that these words may help, entertain, or in some way be of use to you, dear reader.
My Girlfriend Left Me 💔
I wrote that for dramatic effect .. Well, kind of. It is true, but it’s not tragic.
Let me explain. Lucie went back to Czech Republic for a job. She told me that if she didn’t pursue this path, (of therapy work and training), she would regret it on her deathbed.
If you will regret not doing something on your deathbed, you have to do it! That is genuinely one of my life rules. Well, two you could say actually:
1) No regrets because everything just takes you to who you are, where you are and what you know right now. 2) You only have this one life (that we remember) and it is short and then it’s gone, so tick all those boxes and try and do and experience everything in it that you really want to while you’re here.
Because when someone is not following that authentic inner calling (call it inner knowing, passion, purpose, desire, intuition, spirit, soul), they are not happy.
Conscious Uncoupling 💕❓
In spiritual circles (especially in the influencer podcast realm), but also in some forms of therapy, when two people go different directions but support each other in that decision and don’t blame the other, it is called a ‘conscious uncoupling’.
I’d say even more conscious is forgetting about the ‘uncoupling’ part. Just stay in touch, be friendly, and let things unfold. Nothing has to be decided.
Past relationships for me have typically ended with someone packing up and storming off. With drama. So trust me, this non-breakup is a big evolutionary step forward for me 😃, cause I now know how to do it .. and that it’s possible! 🤷
I do appreciate those who’ve said to me this is very inspiring, but I’d maintain my coming to a point of not judging or blaming the other person is, well, more just ‘a grown up thing to do’ than something ultra spiritual or super advanced. 😃
Ever managed a grown up separation when you don’t judge, blame or shame, and how did that work out for you? 💭
A Self-Care Bender 🍺 vs 🥗
So suddenly I found myself living on my own in my rented medium-sized flat (apartment) in central Portugal.
I decided not to go out on that typical ‘indefinite and unrestrained drinking period’ known in the UK as ‘going on a bender’, but instead made the focus on self-care.
I started going swimming every day, to the sauna, booking in a massage, and began my healthy keto again (keto is a topic I’ll write more about another time. My body loves being in ketosis, but I’m not saying it’s for everyone).
That lasted for a few weeks until I joined Lucie’s brother, his girlfriend, and my musician and sound healing friend Will who created these amazing songs, for some days down in Lagos in southern Portugal.
I really enjoyed being in the touristy part of Portugal - the nicer weather, the buildings and walkways all clean and renovated, and all types of restaurants, including some great Indian food again! 🍛 - but when I returned I couldn’t get back into that daily exercise and health routine. 🏋️💪
You ever had that experience of a sudden burst of energy and enthusiasm, giving something a full blown go for a few weeks, and then losing steam? 💭
Alone, Not Lonely 🌳🧘🏠
Instead, it occurred to me that I’ve spent my entire life either living in shared accommodation, with a partner together, in hotels, or in hostels.
I’ve lived an unconventionally nomadic life, and can honestly say that only once have I lived in my own place on my own - and that was only for about 3 months.
Even when I lived in that place (and incidentally also had a daily exercise and health routine 🏋️💪), I knew it was only temporary, so I can honestly also say I’ve never lived anywhere and tried to make it feel like home before.
So my focus has become making this place feel homely. 🌳🧘🏠
And it feels so cozy! - creating your own piece of Zen.
Again, this is my journey, and for you this may not be anything new, but do you remember how it feels when you do little things like move the rug where you want it or get some nice curtains or set up the lamps where you want them? 💭
Building Your Castle 🏰
'Sometimes people need to stop talking about it and build their castle' was the message I once received.
I am not suggesting that our castle is where we live. The point I’m making is that my home, my castle, is personal to me, and it’s constantly changing.
(☝️ another pic from the Lagos trip 💙).
Your home, your happiness, your freedom, your castle 🏰 (choose your word for that which we all deep down seek), is also individual. It’s personal to you.
Me enjoying my alone time out and about exploring:
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No one knows better than you what you need ⚡️✊
That’s a very powerful statement if we really pause, absorb its meaning, and follow it!
So to round up, going back to the beginning of this musing, just like Lucie, your own castle is built by following your own authentic inner calling.
Calling that what you will - inner knowing, expression, passion, purpose, desire, intuition, spirit, soul, source (so many words) - what is your castle?
What is your heart calling for you to do I genuinely wonder? And what are the limiting beliefs (programming/conditioning) getting in your way, or are you truly living your own authentic inner expression already? 💭
Follow the Heart 💟 Not the Head 🤯
Through my daily experience doing hypnotherapy, I have come to really understand at this point that the castle each of us is seeking is .. to actually experience what we deep down genuinely wish our life to be like.
Everything always seems to come back to this phrase:
We Free Ourselves Within
Your castle is built by your own authentic self. That is your freedom. That is what makes you fearless and free, and that can only be found at the core of you, in your own 'unconscious mind' (aka in your 'subconscious').
It’s Simple, Not Easy 🧘
As has been said for 1000s of years.
Because to be able to hear it, feel it, trust it, follow it, and let it guide us, we have to be able to get rid of the noise. 🤯
Our job then is to release any past conditioning, programming and events (any fear, doubt, trauma) that’s stopping us accessing our authentic expression.
Or .. we can change the flavour, so that noise doesn’t feel worth worrying about anymore .. because the life that you experience is literally a result of how you feel and what you imagine (I’ll dive into that more in another post).
Letting Go of Crap 💩
By letting go of the crap, we increase nervous system regulation, which is often called inner balance, but I personally like alignment or the word homeostasis.
My idea is to create powerful genuine professional content on this for my paid supporters in 2025, and share it here on Substack (that’s why I give everyone who’s had a Freedom Hypnosis session with me free paid subscription!).
Have you got some good tips, practices or techniques to share that help you hear, feel, trust, and/or follow your own authentic inner expression? 💭
End of 2024 Offer! ⚡
So for now, I’ve put together an End of 2024 Offer which I am opening up on my birthday (today) to all my Substack subscribers with love! 😊💙
Book one online session with me for half the full amount
(or book 3 full sessions for half the full amount).
This is for sessions held in January or February 2025.
If interested, simply send me a quick email at hello@robitochatwin.com or
Either way, wishing you wonderful end of year celebrations 🙏🎉 and I look forward to answering any comments you’ve left for this post. 💭
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